What are you focusing on in your healing journey?
- Tammie Melo
- Mar 12, 2024
- 2 min read
Updated: Jul 1, 2024
The word focus means the concentration of attention or energy on something.
Based on the definition and life experiences, whatever you focus on will get bigger.
Charles Dickens said "Reflect upon your blessings, of which every man has plenty, not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some." That is just another way of saying what you focus on, you will get. Depending on where you are in your recovery journey from your partner's infidelity or any unexpected life transition, you are focusing on something. Depending on where you're at, you may be focusing on the pain, the hurt, the disappointment, the betrayal and there is definitely a time in our healing journey that you need to focus on and deal with all of the negative stuff. I also believe there comes a new season during this journey, when you have to focus on positive things in your life. You have to focus on what you do have and then look at letting-go, moving-on, forgiveness, healing and possibly reconciling with the person who betrayed you. Always asking the question, am I going to get bitter or better?
We are where we are in life because of our thoughts. You might say, "How can I focus on positive stuff when all I have in my life is negative stuff?" You have to make a choice to create a new habit and find something positive to focus on. This is really a gift we give ourselves and those around us will benefit as well. Even if you feel like you have nothing positive to focus on, don't you have some good things that you want to happen in the future? Focus on those until they come to pass! Bill Meyer said, "Every thought is a seed. If you plant crab apples, don't count on harvesting Golden Delicious apples." What you focus on becomes bigger and what you focus on is what you get. If you are crabby, bitter, mean, you will see those results. If you plant something positive and focus on that, you will see those positive results. So my question to you is what are you focusing on in your journey? Are you focused on being mad? Being right? Getting revenge? Hurting others the way that you have been hurt? Or are you focused on healing? Letting go? Forgiving and trying to forget? Helping others? Turning something bad and awful into something good and great? Turning your "tests" into your testimony? It is a daily struggle, but you can choose to focus on whatever you want to focus on. I know you can do it! I believe in you and want to see you happy and healed.
Again, I ask you, what will you focus on today and moving forward in your journey towards peace?

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